We're taught to keep the hard stuff behind closed doors and let time heal it. Cendie K. Stanford believed that for 30 years. Then the research proved it wrong.
Cendie founded the nonprofit behind acesmatter.org and wrote The Crucible of Childhood Adversity. Her focus is ACEs, Adverse Childhood Experiences, and how they shape who we become.
3 Lessons Learned
Ask what happened, not what's wrong. Trauma is a program installed in childhood, not a flaw. That reframe replaces shame with relief.
Time doesn't heal it. Awareness does. Four or more ACEs raise disease risk. Six or more can cut a lifespan by 20 years.
No pill in a bottle. Healing happens in community, in rooms full of people doing the work.
"Not what's wrong with you, but what programmed you?"
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"Pushing people from post-traumatic stress to post-traumatic growth starts by asking not what's wrong with you, but what programmed you." — Cendie K. Stanford
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